The picture above is from my 27th Birthday Happy Hour! 27 is my favorite number and I have been looking forward to being 27, for like, ever. I have to say I have had an AWESOME 27 year. In honor of ending my 27th year, I compiled a list of 27 things I did and love about this year.
1. Seeing Gotye on my actual birthday at the Satellite in Silver Lake, it was his first US show and a super small venue…unforgettable.
2. My 27th Birthday Weekend: Backstage Bar Happy Hour & Disneyland
3. Joshua Radin / Sara Bareilles concert in Nov. 2011, meeting Josh after and him recognizing me as “The girl in front singing all the words to my songs”. *insert swoon here*
4. Thanksgiving with my closests Matt & Julie.
5. SWEAT w/ Richard Simmons!
6. Indulging in candles, there’s something so special about a candle burning.
7. Leasing a BRAND NEW CAR! Judy (the Honda Insight) gas saving love of my life.
8. OVER indulging at Serendipity in NY and Vegas!
9. The sweetest package I received from Jenna and the Giant Apple consisting of my favorite blush from Tarte and an Keel’s Simple Diary which has been SO much fun to start using.
10. Seeing “Grease” at the Hollywood Forever Cemetery it was basically a giant sing-a-long of amazingness!
11. Reading lots of books - new and re-reads.
12. Watching my cutie cuteness nephew, Wyatt grow up! Auntie Tee Tee for life! ;) and having my quick and lovely phone chats now that he’s talking more.
13. Being a bridesmaid in Deanna & Mindy’s beautiful weddings!
14. Disneyland trips! (Thank you annual pass!)
15. Working on improving my relationship with my Mom.
16. The good & bad that has come from my dating adventures this year. *whew*
17. Finding love for a gym! Circuit Works, has made me love working out.
18. My photo wall expanding with so many great memories and captured moments.
19. Matching tattoos with Julie. A special bond I get to share with her for life.
20. Attending the Roast of Rosanne Barr…love her & SO fun!
21. Pretty Little Liars Marathon with Stephanie and Elissa - great day!
22. A late night catch up session in NY with my sweet friend, Michelle.
23. Enjoying every bit of my pumpkin obsession!
24. Joining the blogger community and some exciting upcoming changes.
25. Every minute I’ve had the chance to spend with new and old friends, rekindling old relationships that have strayed, strengthening existing ones, making new ones, and laughing, loving, and enjoying the amazing people I surround myself with!
26. ALL of my travels, taking me to Toronto, Milan, Idaho Falls, Michigan, Vegas, New York, and home sweet home, Washington.
27. Enjoying growing older and everything that comes with it! I’m ready for whatever you have in store for me, 28!
Okay Okay…I’m a terrible person and I have been neglecting this space a little as of late. I sort of feel like I’m taking advantage of this opportunity that I really cherish and want to be SUPER proud of.
I really want to make sure my posts are the best they could possibly be and be thought out and planned and not so “on the fly”…however, with that being said, I think I would contribute more if I wasn’t so stuck on being a perfectionist! So I am going to work on some sort of balance. Maybe we’ll both be happier.
This is my stop being such an perfectionist face…because let’s be real…nothing is ever perfect.
Speaking of happiness, granted nothing is perfect in my life, but I have been feeling overall “happier” with life in general, who my friends are, the amazing moments and fun I’m having, my quiet time and tv marathon veg sessions, seeing small progress at circuit training <even the small improvements make me smile. It’s just a great feeling over all.
I’ve also been swooning over every little thing that makes me feel like Fall is near! These 90 degree temps have GOT to GO! I have been indulging in lots of pumpkin spice lattes (my heartburn isn’t happy with this though), swooning over cute scarves, and dying to dig out all of my comfy warm winter clothes. *sigh it could not come soon enough!
Simba is filling in for Stan this week, Stan was having a hard time identifying with this weeks knowledge, since he’s very guilty of not doing this…
Never race toward anything unless you feel like getting some exercise.
All too often people are rushing toward their coffee, gulping down their food, hurrying through sex, and typing manically on their computers. They are often upset because they “never have enough time.”
Time is not something that you have more of when you are speeding everywhere. It just make life dizzily fast. If you actually breathe in each moment and focus on being relaxed wherever you are, time spent is infinitely more enjoyable and satisfying.
I found Simba in a box out in our back barn where I grew up. His mother had abandoned him and his little brother, the 3rd kitten didn’t make it. I bottle fed Simba and his brother (QT) and raised them like my own. :)
Simba has grown up to be a fluffy little resilient outdoor cat. I love going back and seeing him after all these years this rough and tough mankitty who was once this helpless little fluffball.
I love this message though. I am a total planner and I LOVE having things to look forward to, I schedule things weeks and sometimes months in advance and I notice my schedules fills right up! If I think I’m going to have a free weekend I make more plans, but I also try to allow “me time” in that, I need to keep up with this little baby of mine, relax, reflect, and give Stan time too.
I like plans because it allows me to mentally prepare and not get too stressed out, but I also understand the importance of spontaneity. I feel like time is flying by but at the same time, I’m definitely taking to the time to enjoy the moments and the fun with friends, family, music, and just wonderfulness I’m living in.
Hope you all are doing the same!
Kristi & Simba by way of WA
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
Drink mostly water as that is the beverage you need, and it will keep you clear and youthful and bring a glow to your hair.
People are always taking a break to drink something. Coffee and Tea have become big favorites, along with wine and other alcohol.
Whereas variety is the spice of life, water is the eternal spring of youth. Water cleanses everything in your body. It is like taking a shower inward. Keep your water intake high and you will feel more truly refreshed.
I am the most guilty of this! Stan is stealing some of my water above, but I don’t drink that much of anything. I have to make a conscious effort to drink water. I think I’m getting better, but other than my 1-2 cups of coffee in the morning and a little water & protein shake after the gym…I’m good.
Ok, time to get stricter about my water intake, Stan says.
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
I’ve been in my studio apartment for almost 2 1/2 years now, so at this point, it’s sort of home.
This is the smallest space I’ve ever lived in and it’s hard to make it feel bigger than it really is (I may be slightly guilty of a little bit of hoarding), but I also strive to make the most of my space.
In 2011, I took a trip to Italy for work, my close friend and Stan-sitter, took the opportunity to revamp my apartment while I was traveling. I came home to the most amazing sight! I was literally speechless! He made some changes that I never would have thought of on my own. Since then, I’ve been slowly doing things to make my space even better.
I LOVE color! I did a little photo project (I’ll share more soon) to break up the dead space on the white walls, and as much as I love what I’ve created, there was still white EVERYWHERE! A few weeks ago, I finally decided it was time to add a pop of color! I spent weeks prior trying to decide on the perfect shade that I wouldn’t get tired of seeing, and voila!
I completely brightened up my space! I have a lot of black and dark colors - Stan and I shed like CRAZY, so darker colors are the most practical for me, but this change has literally brightened my world!
It’s the little things people! I can’t get enough of them! I have a few more little updates that I’m still working through but will share shortly!
What little touches make your home feel like home?
Take time out of your day to take time out of your day.
Sit quietly. Do nothing. Observe. Enjoy the scenery. Smooth your hair. Stretch your limbs. Look around and smell the air. Rub your body parts where they feel sore from working or playing. Lean back and breathe in with long deep breaths. Exhale with little sounds of relief.
You will be amazed how little it takes to restore yourself with a personal timeout.
So you may have noticed there was no Sunday’s With Stan last week. As Stan and I were pondering over this advice…we got so relaxed we ended up taking a LONG nap.
However, I really think this is something to think about. We are living in an information era constantly moving and buzzing and thinking about the next thing, the last thing, or anything! We all need to remind ourselves to step back and take a minute to rest and be truly present.
I sort of touched on this topic a few weeks ago (you can read more here.) but it can be so hard to disconnect from the constant movement and take in your current surroundings. This is something I’m trying to make a best practice and do for a period of time instead of just for a quick moment.
This past week, we had our Summer Party at work. I went into the event thinking that this is a topic that I should definitely cover, but I already had a feeling my etiquette books & I wouldn’t be completely on the same page.
I am SO fortunate to work with an AWESOME group of people at Smashbox Cosmetics.
*it was a nautical theme yacht party (hence the stripe overload).
We used to be a smaller company but were purchased by “corporate america” two years ago. A lot of the people on our team have been with the company for years and we are overall a like little family. Plus, we all genuinely like each other for the most part, so we probably come with a little bit more laid back attitude than other companies might.
The best part about an office party is getting a chance to hang out and have fun with people you are around every day and may not get a chance to work with or see day to day. Catching up on personal lives, singing, dancing, drinking, laughing, just having an all around good time. I think almost everyone comes back to work feeling nostalgic about the fun had and it’s also an opportunity to get closer to people you don’t always interact with and even build new friendships.
So what could go wrong with all of those positive possibilities? I know you’re thinking it… and it’s really the BIGGEST no-no of any company event:
Don’t over indulge in the alcohol and act a fool. Period. The End.
I know that it can be easy to get wrapped up in the moment when you are having such a good time and leaving the office stresses behind, but this is one rule EVERYONE needs to abide by. The last thing you need is to be a complete disaster and embarrass yourself completely. These things find a way of never being forgotten.
If you are new to a company and aren’t sure what the situation is like, just ask a co-worker who’s attended a similar event and get the low down on what to expect, what to wear, and if there are any well known things to avoid.
I think we all know better than this…but it needed to be said…just in case.
One other thing, that I struggle with myself, is remembering that you are still with your co-workers and not to have a gossip fest (especially about anyone or anything relating to work).
Ok Ok…I know what you’re thinking…it’s not polite to gossip anyway, so this shouldn’t even be worth mentioning…but hey, we are all a work in progress here.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are talking about office gossip or other co-workers, it’s probably best to walk away, keep quiet, or politely say that you don’t feel comfortable discussing that here.
Can I reiterate that I can be guilty of this myself, so don’t feel bad, we all do it! I also know there’s nothing like connecting with someone over something you both can understand and maybe equally feel, but these types of convos are better left in a private setting - or not at all. The hills have eyes people!! You never know who could be overhearing what’s being said or any of the other possible disastrous outcomes that could occur.
The Wrap Up? Don’t get drunk. Don’t office gossip.
We can do this and I PROMISE it’s for the best anyway!
One last fun share: We had a mandatory BINGO game that was for some awesome prizes, but this was no ordinary bingo! We played musical bingo! Our beloved DJ would play a portion of a song, and you had to know the song and identify it on your board to mark the spot! (Everyone was on board and several sing-a-long’s occurred.
I captured my board shortly after we decided to play for blackout…but can I say is what a BLAST I had playing this way!
Hope you feel a little better prepared for your next office party, but I’m sure you smarties already have it under control! ;)
Here is a mid-month update via my favorite photo app (Instagram!)
@kristipolitely - if you aren’t already following!
It has been SWELTERING hot in LA these past couple weeks, and Stan is a BIG fan of the Pomegranate All Naturals Popsicles! He’s sharing one with me in the first photo.
I was lucky enough to attend the Roast of Rosanne Barr on August 4th, it aired last Sunday on Comedy Central, shockingly (to me) Gilbert Gottfried was my favorite. He was HILARIOUS! We smuggled out a wine bottle (that I later broke telling an animated story). :/
Dipping my toes in the pool at the Roosevelt Hotel, it was fun to go out and spend the day by the pool.
Another snapshot of our summer party on the yacht!
Lots of trips to Yogurtland lately, I am ADDICTED to their pistachio foryo!
I visited the Melrose Trading Post with my friend Kerri, and picked up some accents for my jewelry display!
Not a bad first half of the month! I have a few more great things planned for the second half as well!
You never have to wait for anyone, or anything, if you learn to find pleasure in the moment at hand.
Have you ever got really peeved because someone was late? You may never be bothered by that again if you are completely present to the amazing world in front of you. Come to every event or moment as if it could be your last and you will see that there is always plenty of stimulation right then and there.
OK, so I know this is a little contradictory to my “tick tock” post, but I there is some truth the the statement above. I think the last few weeks I’ve noticed it the most, but I am just LOVING life, so when we were stuck in traffic for about 6 of our 8 1/2 hr trip home from Vegas last weekend, that I didn’t feel like the world was ending. I was texting friends, enjoying the scenery, and trying to make the most out of the situation that would normally put me over the edge!
So what I’m saying is, if you are really enjoying your life, people being late or things taking longer than suspected, it won’t be so completely frustrating, however, it’s still frowned upon to be late…
Kristi & Stan
Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
Some of you may be wondering how I got here or why I got here…
Instead of learning some ladylike lessons this week, I’m going to share some cool people that helped me get here and that I just love.
I was feeling the need for new inspiration in my life. I decided that I should try and get inspiration somewhere new. I’ve mentioned my being described as a very passionate person, and there’s nothing greater than hearing what other people are passionate about. If they get as crazy as me whether I like it or not, I’m hooked in!
So I figured, what better way to get inspired than by other people? I needed some blogs in my life (since talking to strangers in LA can be a little dangerous :/ )…and that’s where I stumbled upon…
I fell in love with this blog from the moment I stumbled upon it. Originally spearheaded by Elsie (Emma had a separate blog, which I also just loved), this blog is crafty, vintagey, foody, inspirational goodness!
Discovering this space, made me REALLY want to create something of my own, but with a bazillion blogs out there, I was so worried about how I could make a space that’s my own. I had a brief endevour that just didn’t feel like “me” and I really challenged myself to create something that was true to myself and also unique.
Along with their beautifully photographed, interesting, inspiring posts, they offer some GREAT e-courses that you can always re-reference. I did the one on blogging, not only did I feel even closer to Elsie after the course, but it was SO helpful…click here for the direct link to take the course yourself.
There are SO many things I can say about Miss B, first, she lives in London/Cambridge (need I say more?) so she is constantly whisking me across the pond to my dreamland. She’s just so fabulous, she had amazing style, posts the best pictures, and has a super cool official type job on top of it! I feel like we could be friends…while I obsess over her awesome wardrobe…it’s a light hearted lovely little blog that does nothing but brighten my day.
Well, I guess I should preface this by first saying that I actually know this awesome lady! We used to work together (and have car siblings and get told we look like siblings) before she left me to go live it up on the east coast. She’s always had a special place in my heart because she was the first person who REALLY made me feel welcome when I started working at my current company. On top of it, she’s funny, pretty, sweet, smart, and a BEYOND excellent writer. So I may be a touch bias, but I won’t feel bad about it. Check out her blog and you’ll see for yourself. She definitely inspires me to be a better writer, own my style, and now I have second thoughts about sharing my fragrance with anyone or telling anyone what it is…unless they want to purchase it for me…but even then I may ask for a giftcard instead (see why here).
So basically, what I’m saying is, if I was being sent to a deserted island, and I had to bring 3 bloggers with me…^ Ta-Daaaa! (well technically it would be 4, but I’m counting Emma & Elsie as 1).
Lastly, while I was in Vegas last weekend, I took the opportunity to get super dressed up and glammy (more so than I’ve been trying to do on a daily basis)…and while I was getting dressed I had a thought “I wonder if Briony & Jenna would approve?”…in my head I heard “yes” and I hope they would really agree. We went to the Artisan hotel, hidden gem I say! They had a TON of statues, artwork, amazing photo-opness (which I MORE than took advantage of) so here’s a picture of me at the entrance (but from the end of the night).
(not only do I love my outfit, but this photo captures a truly happy smile, not a “smile for the camera” smile…I think those moments can sometimes be few and far between so I like these moments captured. I love it!)
Quotes like this have really been resonating with me lately. I feel that I’m finally in a place where I can look at my life and be SO happy about it. Where i’m at, who my close knit friends are, what I love, like, and makes me laugh. I feel like I can give off that vibe to everyone around me!
Don’t get me wrong, I can totally still have bad days, bad moods, and moments of annoyance, but now, those things don’t make me feel like “my life sucks” or “the world is ending” anymore.
All vices are best enjoyed at lengthy intervals. Do not let a vice nip you with constant cravings.
A little herb. A little sip. A little nooky. A little caviar. A good life!
What makes life delightfully delicious is a specially placed vice along the way. Too much of anything makes life dull and overly accented; it becomes natural instead of sublime.
Never make a great treat a staple meal. Its novelty will be lost and your senses will become sluggish and less attuned. Ritualize the sacred bliss of partaking in something a little extra.
I’m in Vegas this weekend, so I thought this was appropriate. ;)
I definitely enjoy giving myself a little something extra and so does Stan!! He’s pictured above scarfing down his once a week soft food, followed by a nice long food coma day.
I think it’s easy when certain treats are accessible to want them often, but over indulging can definitely make a good thing lose it’s luster! So make an effort to make some things special so you can enjoy them more when you choose to indugle!
Here are a few of my vices:
cake. cake cake cake cake.
basking in the sun.
steak from Bossa Nova *swoon*
I’m sure if Stan could speak for himself, these would be a few of his:
soft food Saturday or Sundays
occasional people food treats (pistachio pudding & acai popcicles)
licking meowmy’s empty food plate
naps with my meowmy (okay maybe this is mine?)
What are some of your vices?
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Jennifer Freed’s Lessons from Stanley the Cat
Okay, No, this isn’t a karaoke moment for Tick Tok by Ke$ha, however, I have done that, more than once, yes - it’s on video…
We’re here today to talk about one of my favorite subjects (and other’s LEAST favorite subject)…BEING ON TIME!
It’s never fashionable to be late whether it’s for business or a social engagement. At the very least, lateness is a sign of disorganization; at its worst it screams “I am more important than you or this occasion.”
AMEN! I suppose I should preface this by saying, my dad set me up to be this way, he’s the guy that was an embarrassingly HOUR early to everything!
I went into life having MAJOR anxiety for being 2 minutes late to something, and let’s face it, moving to LA and dealing with traffic - sh*t happens. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being under 10 minutes late, provided you let the person know you’re running late.
Anything over that that is kind of unacceptable to me, and since I can, on occasion, be a dramatic girl, I go straight to “at worst” in how I feel about it.
At work, there’s nothing more annoying than people being late to a meeting, and you’re running around trying to gather everyone together that by the time you are actually ready to begin, not only have you lost some valuable meeting time, you’re not really starting the meeting off in the best mood…and rightfully so, I say!
So what did we learn class? (kidding!!!)
Shouldn’t we all strive to be on time and respect other peoples time as well as our own? Let’s do this!
You will never feel left out if you treasure your own company the most.
We often believe the grass is greener somewhere else, which is probably is, if you think about it. But if you are absorbed in the possibilities of the present, you really don’t have time to be mind-roaming in places you are not.
Within you, and all around you, is a universe of imagination, physical matter, and creative possibility. When alone, explore the vast frontiers of perception and experience, and don’t waste a precious moment wishing you were somewhere else.
Heavy stuff right there. This couldn’t be a better topic this week.
My friend Kerri always says “You’re a thinker!” - which is totally true. However, being a thinker, can lead to over thinking, and there’s a LONG list of friends who call me out on that one…
This last year has had some craziness for sure, things that made me question what I wanted out of my life and my future, who I am as a person, etc…etc…
Monday, I got an email that would have, a year ago, sent me into total upheaval. Instead, I was a little bothered and annoyed, but at the same time, did a little “self check-in”…and I really couldn’t be happier with where I’m at in my life right now. I feel like I have a very strong sense of who I am again, and I really like me! I have some awesome awesome friends and I just LOVE spending time with them and being in the moment! I have lots of “blog crushes” that I just admire and adore and read always! I’ve seen several talented musicians this year. I mean, there is just SO much to be grateful for.
I was always someone dwelling in the past, looking forward to the future, and making a small attempt to live in the now. I realized this week, that somehow that has changed, while I don’t think I’ll ever stop looking to the past and having wants for the future, I’m REALLY enjoying the now!! YAY!!
So I’m just going to take a moment to share some AWESOME moments that I had this week!
MONDAY: I had a very very favorite friend at work share some pretty heavy personal news with me and even though it wasn’t the happiest news, I felt SO privileged that she trusted me enough to talk to me about it because I just adore her, it made me feel pretty special.
TUESDAY: New life. My former boss just had the cutest sweet baby on the fourth of July. I spent the ENTIRE lunch hour holding him. *sigh* just the cutest, I cannot WAIT to be a mommy some day!
WEDNESDAY: Laughing at myself! I was eating lunch with a couple co-workers and I can’t remember how we got on the topic, but it was a break from a long half day meeting. I was mentioning my short attention span, like “oooh something shiny”…and a co-worker said “Squirrel”…I immediately looked around and asked “where?!” (obvi) and he burst out laughing, about 20 seconds later, I got the joke, because they have short attention spans…Ha Ha…but I TOTALLY fell for it…and I’m still laughing about it today.
THURSDAY: I go to a circuit training class twice a week (if possible), it’s my FAVORITE workout ever! We have a lot of regulars and it was my favorite trainer teaching the class. He’s always really funny and makes the workout fun, but that night there was confusion on what to do where to go from the class and him, and we couldn’t help but laugh about it. I feel like I got a great workout that night, but at the same time, had a REALLY GOOD TIME. Ahhh…
FRIDAY: Summer Friday in the houseeeee….I had the day off because my lovely company offers us 5 a summer, and my friend Kerri and I went outlet shopping! She thought we wouldn’t be there very long and we had poolside plans after (I think she forgot who she was going with)…we SHOPPED that outlet!! It was so fun because I was shopping for her and myself, we have distinct styles so I would see something and be like “That’s SO Kerri” and vice versa… and we even picked up a few of the same things.
Here’s a glimpse of our haul:
SATURDAY: I had an absolutely wonderful lazy day. I had brunch with my sweet friend Stephanie, and then we went back to her place made yummy healthy snacks and had a Pretty Little Liars marathon with Elissa too! It was great company, a new show I’m hooked on, and we also got to see some of Stephanie’s husbands band, Betawolf, performing live in New Jersey (via FaceTime). Dear iPhone, I love you.
I will speak on behalf of Stan, and say that he probably wasn’t happy I was out having a great weekend day without him yesterday, but we are cuddly as a bug on a rug today! ;)
Kristi & Stan
Source: Jennifer Freed’s Lessons from Stanley the Cat
Sleep well and rest often. A good nature depends on good sleep.
How many times have you realized that your day would have gone better if you had just gotten more rest? It is easier if you if you get in rhythm with the sunrise and the sunset, however antiquated that may sound. If you can’t get to bed at a decent hour, then take a fine catnap during the day. No decision will be better made by staying up late.
I look at this from two ways, first, I LOVE sleep…love love loveeeee. So I’m all for encouragement on sleep and napping and rest.
However, I also think that wanting to go home and be lazy because I love sleep, may not be holding up to this whole “YOLO" (You Only Live Once, don’t worry, I had to get clarification myself) revolution going on right now…
As much as I adore my sleep, I also appreciate those nights I stay up late and am completely unaware of the time because I’m having so much fun. Catch 22…that one…
So let’s be conscious of getting our beauty sleep…but fun enough to not miss good times with the people we love!
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
I couldn’t possibly cover this topic in one post because there is SO much to cover! However, the BEST thing happened this week and it seemed like the perfect time to bring this up!
A co-worker I don’t interact with often complimented me on the skirt I was wearing, she mentioned that she loved it, but was surprised to see me in it, because it wasn’t really my style. (I, myself had the same thought but, 4 outfit changes later, I was out of time - true story.) I think I played it cool, but inside I was squealing and jumping up and down… I’ve finally developed a recognizable STYLE!! EEK!
I think mostly over the past year or so, I’ve been really trying to hone in on what looks good on me, what I like, what things I will wear repeatedly, and building a strong wardrobe (this also may contribute to my shop-a-holicness, but whatevies!) and…I confess, it is a little darker than I had envisioned. Black just looks good with EVERYTHING! So I still need to work some more color in and get a few must have signature pieces, but I’m well on my way, and what’s better, people are NOTICING!!
So you may be asking yourself, what on earth does getting a compliment about what your wearing have to do with etiquette? Answer: A LOT.
How you present yourself to the world effects how others perceive you. I believe Stan had some advice about having confidence when you look your best, a week or so back… if you need a refresher, click here. ;)
Signature style is one thing every woman should hope to possess, and will help you feel like YOU for any occasion. Presenting yourself properly by being well groomed and well dressed will not only gain notice from others, but it tells people that you are put together in your life as well. Close Friends: when you see me lulling around the house in yoga pants, a tank, and with no makeup…please remember I’m a work in progress too.. ;) and feel free to call me out on it).
Discover the best you, you can be, and share it with the rest of the world, not only in your actions but your whole presence. Let’s do this!
Nuzzle someone’s head when their mind is overactive. Remind them to open up their mind to love.
The human brain is filled with frenetic thinking. The mind itself is a maze of memory, feeling, worrying, and planning. When the head is nuzzled, it harks back to a time when instinct was stronger than analysis.
Touching the head can evoke a warm and calming feeling. When the brain can let go a little of its millions of brainy missions, the body can open more and receive genuine contact. Rubbing or nuzzling the head can be a gateway to a new phase of contentment.
AMEN! Seriously the best feeling ever when Stan leans back, stops by, or wakes me up with a head nuzzle. It’s SO soothing and just makes you stop whatever you’re doing to enjoy it a little. Even beyond pets, a kiss on the head is known as a way of saying “I adore you”, getting my hair washed and blow dryed at a salon (I leave super relaxed and ready for a nap!).
In the Thai culture, you are never to touch or pass anything over someone’s head. The head is considered to be sacred.
I don’t know how I feel about this - first, does this then negate head nuzzling?! I’ve clearly stated a strong case to the goodness of this! Also, when my sister (from another mister), Julie, was in Thailand she got to visit a Tiger sanctuary. She was drowning in the enjoyment of my impending jealousy…I’m still jealous. Grr. However, they weren’t allowed to touch the tiger’s heads because of this cultural rule. GAH! I would have had the WORST trouble with this?! I WANT A TIGER HEAD NUZZLE AND I WANT IT NOW!
Anyway, when you are with someone you love, a little head pat, nuzzle, or kiss never hurt anybody. At least, in the American culture.
*head nuzzle* Politely Yours,
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
With Mindy’s wedding coming up this weekend, I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to share some wedding etiquette. I LOVE LOVE LOVE shopping, for myself and others! Getting and giving gifts is something that has always been SO fun for me, but also self challenging, because I put a TON of pressure on finding the most perfect meaningful gift…which can be a HUGE task… here are some general guidelines to choosing and sending gifts…some of this is definitely news to me!
It’s the thought that counts…
Choosing a gift is a matter of deciding what you believe will give pleasure. Thinking about someone else is one reason why people often enjoy shopping for others. Still, guests do have questions about gifts, and these are the FAQ’s…
Do I have to choose something from the bridal registry?
No. The registry is a convenience for guests, not a mandate. However, checking a couple’s registries may give you a better idea of their taste and needs, even if you purchase off-registry.
I feel weird sharing this advice. In my opinion, a registry is built for a reason!? Unless you have a specific meaningful or family heirloom to pass down, I feel like you should stick to the list?! Thoughts?
Is it tacky to send money? / How do I give the couple a gift of money?
I figured I’d tackle both FAQ’s in one. You’re welcome.
Not at all. Wedding gifts of money have been around for quite some time and is perfectly acceptable. Cash gifts are often just right for couples who have already established their household or are saving for something special. If you choose to give the gift of money, it is either sent directly to the couple with a personal note or into a financial gift registry (if applicable). In some cultures, a gift of money is brought to the wedding and presented to the bride and groom.
I always like to give money if there is nothing on the registry that I want to give or don’t feel like fits between me and the Bride/Groom’s relationship. ie: a pair of dishcloths feels weird to gift, even if it’s on the registry, however, if I know they like baking and there is a cake stand or something on the list, I snatch it up!
I don’t know how I feel about presenting money to the bride and groom at the wedding. What if they don’t think it’s enough!??! (I know, I know, they should be grateful no matter what, but if they WEREN’T happy with the number, at least that can react without being in my face?!) Right?!?!
Don’t I have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift?
No. This is another myth. Gifts should be sent before the wedding or as soon after the wedding date as possible. But late is better than never, so if you have an unavoidable delay, send your gift when you can.
I think I’m still in shock?! That’s like going to someone’s birthday, and sending them a present a year later on their next birthday?!!? WTF? How is this a FAQ?
Anyway, I hope some of this has helped prepare you for your next wedding event!
I can’t WAIT to be a part of Phil and Mindy’s special day!
Today marks my 9 year anniversary of living in So Cal!
It’s crazy how time has flown. I just wanted to take a quick minute to thank EVERYONE who has been a part of my life here, whether it was short term or long. I wouldn’t be where I am today without any of you and I carry a little piece of each of you always.
Do not let age, gendor, race, economic, or species differences matter. In the eyes of love, we are all here for the same reasons - to evolve, to learn, and to be close.
When your eyes are closed and you are near enough to someone, you can hear their heartbeat. The amazing thing is that everyone’s heart is pretty much the same. Some of us move faster or slower than others, or to a different beat, yet what is on the inside is much more important, and longer lasting, that what is showing on the outside.
Wise words. I think its a natural instinct to make judgments of people. It’s how you determine whether you are in a safe situation or not, or who to trust and who not to trust. However, actions from a person should help you make those judgments - not their physical appearance. I know this is definitely something easier said than done…but something to think about today.
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
I am a self proclaimed live music addict! I will see my favorite bands/artists EVERY time they come to town if I can! There are SEVERAL things that can ruin a concert experience. So yes, there are good manners for concert attendance.
Whether it’s a Broadway spectacular (more on that in a sec), a rock festival in an open field, or a high school choir concert, truly enjoyable performances depend to a degree on the behavior of the audience. The experience can easily be ruined by a discourteous attendee.
Here are some general courtesies:
Be on time.
Have your tickets ready (or at will call, everything you need to pick up)
Say “Excuse Me” when passing others in your row to take your seat.
Remove Hats (if it will block the view of the person behind you).
Noises Off. Lights Out. (oops! totally a guilty party here.)
No talking, unless audience participation is requested by the performers.
Avoid other sounds that can disturb the people around you.
Ok, some of these rules can be a little strict in my opinion but let’s breakdown a couple here…
Sister Act on Broadway - June 21st, 2012
First, Raven Symone was “out” that night…but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise because the show was AMAZING and her stand in was PERF.
What made the performance a little less enjoyable: No talking, unless audience participation is requested by the performers.
Lord Have Mercy! The group of women behind us where chatting the WHOLE performance!! All I could hear was “SSsssSSSs hiss hiss SsssSSS”… SO distracting! I did several over the shoulder glares (Don’t they know the international signal for “that’s annoying”!) I was losing my mind. I suppose I should have politely asked them to pipe down…but I was SO upset that I don’t think I could have got the words out nicely…and as Flower so politely states in Bambi “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”… (ok, I fail at this sometimes, but I kept it in mind here).
Back to Summerland…
Good Posture - FAIL
I’m not trying to be a bitter single lady here…I am all for love and sweet kisses in the magic of musical moments!
HOWEVER, spending almost the ENTIRE concert locking lips was little annoying. Especially in auditorium seating, where the seats are aligned so you can see in between the two seats in front of you. Naturally, I stood up and looked over them, but they could have been a little more considerate.
Example: stand up and face each other from ONE seat, so you aren’t blocking the people behind you or COME UP FOR AIR!
I paid to see some live music not to see your make out sesh! Get it together people.
Here are some of my concert FAILs:
Noises off. Lights out. - I can’t bear to turn off my phone completely! I live in the technology era and being completely disconnected gives me anxiety. Plus, I need Scramble with Friends & Words with Friends (xkristimariex) to occupy me during set changes!
Don’t take flash photos or shoot video during live performances. - I didn’t even list this above. I mean, obviously flash photography/videography is prohibited during a play or movie, but at a concert?! I think that’s an unrealistic request. (or maybe I just refuse to abide by it. so there. hmph. ughh…just took my ladylike ways down a notch. *haha)
No talking, unless audience participation is requested by the performers. Ok, I know I just had a complete bitchfest about other people not abiding by this rule. BUT I think there are appropriate times or polite ways to talk during a performance.
For Example: During breaks or set changes, chat away I say! If you have a quick comment to share - Do It! quickly, of course. Lastly, in a concert setting only - SING THE EFF ALONG! That’s my favorite part of live shows! Ok, so maybe other people around me didn’t pay to hear me sing, but for the most part, everyone is having a giant sing-a-long which is usually encouraged by the performer. So there. I won’t feel guilty.
Okay, I’m sure you’re tired of me cramming good manners down your throat for today. So read, remember and think about your actions when you attend your next live performance.
I found (well actually my friend, Tracy found) this AWESOME book when we were shopping in a little boutique in Huntington Beach last year, it’s called ”Lessons from Stanley the Cat” by Jennifer Freed. I snatched it up immediately because my cat is named Stan. (It was meant to be!)
It has turned out to be such an insightful and fun book that really does apply to every day life… and I like to imagine that my Stan is sharing these lessons with me and I am going to share them with you….
Todays Lesson… Keep yourself well groomed and smelling wonderful. Everything will respond to you better.
Every day is an opportunity to look your best. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll feel like making the effort. Even if you are staying on the couch shedding over everything, groom as if the most important visitor of your life was about the walk through the door. You will like your own company better if you treat yourself like you matter, no matter what.
I am the first to admit my love for lazy couch days and yoga pants (this is happening today actually). Taking even a couple minutes to put a little effort into your appearance on those days does nothing but make you feel even better. Wash your face, put a little blush and mascara on and shine! (even if you’re the only one seeing yourself that day).
Kristi & Stan
*Source: Lessons from Stanley the Cat by Jennifer Freed
I can remember faces I’ve only seen for a moment, so I recognize people I have met and usually know where I met them…but their name? YIKES!
It can be SO embarassing, especially if you’ve met them more than one time! So what do you do when you find yourself in this anxiety attack induced situation? If you are able to discretely ask a third person nearby to remind you of the forgotten name, do it!
If not… Own Up.
You can say something as simple as “I’m SO sorry, but I’ve managed to forget your name.” I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s ever forgotten a name, so better to confess and move on than dwell on it for too long. Once they give you thier name, repeat it back to them, it will help you commit it to memory so you don’t slip up again.
Likewise, don’t let anyone feel bad if they forget your name, just state your name clearly and hope they remember it in the future. It happens. Or if they call you by the wrong name. I’ve been called Krissy, Kris, Kristina, Kristine, or Kerry (I have a lot of Kerry’s in my life) It’s best to just politely correct them, “Actually, its Kristi. Don’t worry, I’m terrible with names too.” I just put my own advice into action this past week while traveling to a trade show in NY, lots of faces I know and only a few names I had memorized… *whew*.
I wanted to create this space to share my life, love for music, pretty things, and journey to “living like a lady”.
I was raised in a small town by my dad. I was always taught the staples, “Please” and “Thank You” but proper etiquette has always interested me. Maybe because I didn’t have a “modern” mother figure in my life (my lovely Grandma seemed a little too old fashioned). I dreamed of going to a finishing school (Do they still exist?) and learn how to go from tomboy to lady. I would wonder…How do you have a meaningful conversation with a stranger? Do you always leave a tip and how much is appropriate? Is a hand written thank you really better than a thoughtful email? Is it ok to touch up your makeup in public? What do I wear to a wedding? I’m going to find out.
Living in a big city (Los Angeles) where greeting a stranger is more of a threat than an act of kindness. Horns are honking out of anger instead of a friendly wave. Spouting out a “How Are You”, “Please”, and “Thank You” are more of a reflex than a genuine remark. Conversing outside of texting / Facebook? Forget it! It makes me wonder how we got this way? I am the first to admit that I am a guilty party in these un-lady like actions.
It’s time to make a change! Armed with my Emily Post’s Etiquette Book (18th Edition), How to Live Like a Lady by Sarah Tomczak, and whatever I encounter along the way, I hope to transform myself into not only a better person but a lady!